Proverbs 31 – This Lady is Stressing me Out!

Proverbs 31 – This Lady is Stressing me Out!

Hi True Beauties,

As you know I set aside Wednesdays to be a devotional day for my blog. I have been studying the book of Proverbs with a group of friends and have been sharing my own thoughts of the verses with all of you.

I need to be really honest with all of you… this Proverbs 31 woman stresses me out. Last week we focused on being a “rare” woman. Someone our husbands can look to and put full confidence in. As I was studying these verses and reading the commentary that went along with it… my goodness did I feel like I fell short.

I work a full time job and when I come home I am exhausted. Sometimes I have just enough energy to re-heat left overs and clean the kitchen. Thinking about tackeling laundry or dusting is overwhelming at times. This Proverbs 31 woman seems to always have enough drive to do it all though??!! Am I supposed to have a three course meal ready for my husband and kids when we get home… am I supposed to have everything ready for the next day? (clothes laid out, ironed, and lunches made)

I started to become irritated with this put together woman who shined a light on my shortcomings… but then my Bible study leader wrote us all an encouraging message:


“I’ve been praying about a long encouraging post and all that keeps coming up is pray. Go to our knees and pray when we feel overwhelmed, when these verses are driving us crazy, when we just don’t wanna….whatever the obstacle pray and seek support. The bottom line is God wants our hearts and a relationship. He does NOT want us to stay in a place of condemnation or despair. That only gets us stuck. Romans 8:1-2 1 Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. 2 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and of death. 
This is not easy, but we know our God is with us and will guide us. We are never going to be perfect in this life. Our world is fallen and we are sinful, but with out Fathers help we can keep working to be what He has called us to be. 
So in conclusion, pray. A lot! Keep posting and encouraging each other. Praying for you all.”

She is so right. There is NO CONDEMNATION in Christ. Yes, we can beat ourselves up, but His Word was given to us for edification and encouragement. I may not look like the Proverbs 31 woman right now, but He has given me every tool to grow into this role. I know I need adjustments in my attitude and the way I look at my household responsibilities, and when I do things unto Him, everything comes easier.

I know I am not alone in this. Maybe you feel like you are just not good enough. Be encouraged, you are not alone and God has not set you up to fail. You have the victory if you endure. The race is long, but keep the faith and know at the very end we will all hear… “Well done my good and faithful servant!”

Love you all,


  1. I didn’t realize that so many women felt pressured by Pro 31 until recently. Proverbs is my favorite book of the Bible. Although I’ve never felt pressured by Pro 31, I believe that it can be used disproportionately. There are many other Bible verses and illustrations that edify women that rarely get mentioned.

    Many Bible women were virtuous and had some of the traits outlined in Pro 31.

    These women were called blessed:
    Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” (Pro 31:29)
    Most blessed among women is Jael, the wife of Heber the Kenite. May she be blessed above all women who live in tents. (Jud 5:24)
    Mary – Thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women. (Luke 1:28)

    These women spoke wisdom and faithful instruction. (Pro 31:26).
    Unnamed wise woman of Abel’s wise instruction saved her city. (2 Sam 20:19-22)
    Esther was woman of strength and dignity who feared God. Her wisdom helped saved the Jews from annihilation. (Book of Esther)
    Pilate’s wife spoke with wisdom and faithful instruction. (Mt 27:19)
    Others in her community had “full confidence” in the prophet Huldah’s ability to authenticate a very important book for the king. (2 king 22:14-20).
    Rahab “watched over the affairs of her household.” She wisely and faithfully “instructed” the spies about how to hide and escape. She negotiated a plan that would save her life and the lives of those in her household. (Heb 11:31)
    Priscilla worked with her hands too. She was a tent maker. She assisted her husband in giving Apollos wise and faithful instruction. (Acts 18:26)
    Prophetess Anna’s lamp didn’t go out at night because she worshiped God day and night by fasting and praying. She wasn’t idle, and wisdom and faithful instruction were on her tongue. (Luke 2:36-38)
    Judge & Prophet Deborah wisely instructed the people of Israel. (Judges chapter 4 & 5)

    She has been like a merchant’s ship that brings its merchandise from far away. (Pro 31:14)
    The Queen of Sheba literally brought Solomon gifts of gold, large quantities of spices, and precious stones from away. (1 Kings 10:6-10). Also like Pro 31 woman, Queen of Sheba’a earned a reward, and her quest for wisdom brought her praise. Queen of Sheba is one of the few women Jesus celebrates from the OT. She came from afar to hear the wisdom of a mere man. She was amazed at what she saw and heard. However, when Jesus who was greater than Solomon came, many despised, rejected, slighted and slandered Him. (Mt12:42)

    Watched over affairs of household (Pro 31:27)
    Zipporah knew what she needed to do to save her husband’s life. She brought him goodness and not harm. (Ex 4:14-20)
    Moses’ mom hid him. Moses may or may not have called her blessed, but Paul felt she was blessed and listed her in the Hebrew Hall of faith. (Heb 11:23).
    Deacon Phoebe helped watch over the affairs of the household of faith. (Rom 16:1-2)

    Brings goodness rather than harm. (Prov 31:12)
    Midwives did what was “good” for newborns and refused to harm them like the king commanded. (Ex 1:15-21)

    Helps poor (Prov 31:20)
    Dorcas helped the poor. (Acts 9:36)

    Doesn’t let her lamp go out… (Pro 31:18)
    Wise virgin didn’t allow her lamp to go out. She was prepared when Bridegroom came. (Matt 25:1-12)

    Like the Pro 31 woman, Lydia was a woman of noble character. The name “Lydia” means noble.
    The Pro 31 woman wore purple, and Lydia sold it. Pro 31 woman was a merchant and so was Lydia. (Acts 16:14, 40)

    None of these women were superwoman, but each was super and virtuous in her own way. Instead of looking at all the ways we might not measure up to the Pro 31, may we consider the traits that we have in common with her like the women mentioned above. I truly hope this blesses you. I know it blessed me.

    • Thank you!! Thank you for the encouragement, but more so for the time you took to showcase the incredible women in the Bible. You are so right. There are so many countless women we can glean from. I know I am guilty of having Proverbs 31 tunnel vision, but God is so faithful and sends us His encouraging Word through His people. I pray you are blessed today and always, and thank you again for this incredible reminder of who we are in Christ. I will definitely be sharing with my group!!


    • This is a great list! It definitely blessed me! I love that Jael is included — hers always was one of my favorite Bible stories as a kid. :)

      • Yes, that was an incredible list and wonderful reminder of our heritage in Christ. Thank you for your comment and I hope your blessed by this blog!

    • Wise words coming from a young, beaituful heart. A heart that so clearly lives to glorify Him. May His love continue to reign in you, and shine forth for all to see the work our mighty God is doing in your precious life. You are a true example for young ladies struggling, dealing with hard life situations, loosing a parent at any age is hard,but at your age you have chosen to rely on Him, knowing only He can comfort such a pain. I love you girl, and am so proud of you!Denise

      • Thank you for your comment Denise. I have not lost one of my parents though. I am unsure where you may have heard that, but thank you for taking the time to comment. Your words are very encouraging!

    • Thanks for commenting! I love GMG and the study we are doing… even though it is pushing me to my limits sometimes. I think its a good thing though. What do you think of the study, are you a part of it?


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